THE MUMMY JUGGLE – its real..

So lets make it a team sport

Sleep in or get up and exercise? A daily battle in my brain. I know the exercise makes me feel better but as a sleep deprived mother of 3 it can be challenging after a broken nights sleep to get the motivation to get up and get going.

Having our third child has definitely changed my life. Don’t get me wrong, I love my kids to bits but life is now a never ending “To do list” and a whole new level of mess and noise in the house.

I shouldn’t complain. I am #blessed to have 3 healthy kids, yes 3 energetic boys aged 7,6 and 18 months and I am in start up stage of my business, Happetite Food that I absolutely love and am passionate about.People ask how I manage it, and honestly I have no idea, I don’t know any different, it’s the mummy and business juggle and its real. All I can suggest is find your tribe, ditch the guilt and build in some short cuts and some fun.

There are some days where I feel like super mum. I’ve made a meal, put 3 loads of washing on, done my exercise and got kids ready for school all by 8am. Yee ha to me. Other days I feel like I cant get enough caffeine into me (or it isn’t working anymore – maybe I need to switch to doubles shots of coffee?). I put the keys in the freezer, eat cheese and crackers for a meal and just want to crawl up on the lounge and watch Netflix all day and ignore all the chores and to do’s.

Motherhood – any way you participate in it is a juggle and can be crazy at times.

I’ve often wondered who it is easier for. Working mums, stay at home mums, mums with nannies, mums with au pairs, mums with amazing grandparents that look after kids? The reality is, its just not easy and everyone is participating in their own crazy little dance of juggling motherhood, while trying to keep a level of sanity.

After 3 kids I have come to realise that motherhood is not a competition but best played as a team sport. If we as mums can support each other any way we can then it makes all our lives a little easier. Supporting, rather than competing with those around us makes the journey a little more fun, a little easier and shows our kids that asking for help is ok and helping others is encouraged. 

I have recently moved to a lovely part of Sydney that has a very unique supportive community. As first I was a little skeptical about it, I couldn’t quite figure out why people wanted to help me out when they didn’t even know me. I have to admit I was a little stand-off-ish at first but once I started to get involved and help out others as well as them helping me, I realized that supporting those around you is not only beneficial for your family, your mental health and your family, it is also fun. Why be the mater and try and get it all done on your own when the people around you are juggling with the same battles.

Tap into your community, ask for help, give help and see what happens. From someone that was at first a little skeptical I can now admit that I love sharing the journey with my local community mums and having a laugh at “those days”. 

Motherhood – the juggle is real but it is so much more fun when you make it a team sport !!!

Written by Monique Treder, mum of 3 boys and owner of Happetite Food, sending gifts of food to the people you care about.

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To Gift Voucher or Not???

Thoughts on Gift Vouchers?

I am sure I am not the only person that has a few expired Gift Vouchers sitting in one of their drawers at home.
When you receive a Gift Voucher it is always with great excitement and pleasure and I cannot quite figure out why I, and a great percentage of the population fail to redeem them within the validity period.
When I started up my company, Happetite Food I decided that our Gift vouchers wouldn’t have an expiry date on them. I believe if someone has spent the time and money choosing a gift voucher for you then you should have plenty of time to decide when to use it.
Last year I was gifted a voucher for a facial to a beauty salon. My birthday happened to fall two weeks after my third son was born so there was no way I was getting to the beauty salon in those first few months with a newborn baby. When I did manage to get around to checking out the voucher and calling them up to book it I realised it had a 6 month validity and was out of date, needless to say I was extremely disappointed to hear this and I am sure the person who gave it to me would have actually liked me to enjoy what they had gifted.
Formerly it was up to the business to set a validity date on their Gift Vouchers, but since the start of 2018 the legislation has changed. Now a Gift voucher has a minimum of 2 years validity and some even have a buffer period that you can still redeem them for a month or so after the expiry date.
I was so happy to hear this as I think it is only fair for the consumer to be given a greater amount of time to redeem this gift that has been paid for but not yet redeemed.
I can also see this from the point of view of a small business owner having too many outstanding gift vouchers can cause problems with balancing the books and stock but this can be seen as an opportunity to check in with your customers and encourage them to use their vouchers before they expire. I know as a customer that this level of customer service would really impress me and I would spread the word about what a great company they were.
Unfortunately I missed out on the facial early this year but with the new legislation in place from March 2018, myself and a great deal many other consumers will now be given a much longer period of time to enjoy our gift vouchers and maybe even get a little bit of “me time”.

If you have any questions about Gift Vouchers, the legislation about them or a Happetite Gift Voucher please don’t hesitate to get in touch.

Monique @ Happetite Food Gifts


Timing is important


When a friend or family member is going through a challenging time you just want to reach out and help. This is one of the reasons why I set up the business, Happetite Food.

In these times when life is really challenging it can be difficult to know how to help and the best timing. Let’s take one of my own personal experiences as an example. When I lost my grandfather it was a very sad time for family. He was an amazing man and although he lived to the ripe old age of 94 his passing was a huge loss to our family, friends and community.

On the day of my grandfather’s passing and for the couple of days afterwards my grandmother received dozens of bunches of flowers, wreaths and bouquets. We just didn’t have enough vases for them all and although my grandmother and mother were very grateful to all who sent these gifts and kind gestures one of the most practical items that was sent to the house was a platter of food.

At the time my family bonded together to arrange funeral details, grieve and share stories of what a wonderful man he was. The platter that was delivered was perfect to share with the many family members and visitors that came to visit on those first few days. The timing of this gift of food was perfect.

What really surprised me was that a few weeks after the funeral when the flowers started to die and the visitors reduced the reality really set in. My grandmother was on her own and the grieving stage had only just begun.
I often get asked when is a good time to send people a food gift? Whether the occasion is a new baby, illness or bereavement I often suggest that the best timing is a few weeks after as this is often the hardest time for the recipient and moment when a home cooked meal is most needed.

My grandfather’s passing and a couple of other times in my life are the reason I started my business, Happetite Food. It was really hard to watch my grandmother go through this and as much as all our family chipped in and cooked her some meals, I know this is not possible for everyone and also quite hard to do when you are managing work and family.

The reality is, a gift of a home cooked meal is always a lovely gesture and something that nurtures and soothes someone in need. Next time you are sending a package maybe consider the timing of the delivery to ensure they know someone is thinking of them even after the flowers have died and visitors have gone.

For more information about Happetite Food Gifts please visit: Sending Feel-Good Food Gifts to the people you care about



In our fast paced world with access to so much information at our fingertips it is surprising the levels of loneliness, depression and anxiety that our society faces.

Who would have thought that when we receive almost 100 emails per day, spend up to 2 hours on social media and 8-10 hours a day on a computer we are more lonely than ever before.
In an article I read recently we receive one hand written letter every 2 months in comparison to 100 emails per day. The time, energy and thought that goes into each of these hand written letters is something that is lost. The speed of texting a friend is quicker than picking up the phone and calling but are we actually really communicating with those around us or just scratching the surface.

I know personally that when I spend too much time on social media I find myself feeling a little down about other people’s holidays, beautiful families, renovated houses and picture perfect lives. Although when I have a catch up with my close friends in person (a rare event as we all have a bundle of children and busy working lives) it is an honest, open catch up with lots of laughs, sometimes a few tears and makes me feel invigorated and supported.

Part of the reason I set up my business, Happetite Food was because I myself had experienced how a thoughtful act such as sending a card, making some food or sharing a cup of tea can help with someone struggling with loneliness.

With such busy lives we quite often miss the signs of those around us who are lonely. Don’t be fooled by the number of facebook friends they have, how amazing their life looks from the outside or how much they say they are busy. Most people would be absolutely blown away by the simple act popping in for a cup of tea and bringing a sweet treat to share (homemade or store bought it doesn’t matter) and a catch up.

So my goal in April is to take notice of the people around me, ask questions that scratch the surface about how they really are and just do one kind deed a week to make someone’s day a little brighter. You just never know the impact that your act can have on someone else’s life.

Monique @ Happetite food


Eating Seasonally

Eating seasonally is a great in theory but something that has become less common as we shop in larger supermarkets and have everything available at all times of year.
My young boys were surprised when I explained the concept of seasonal eating to them recently. They had assumed that you could buy all types of food at any time of year. That is when I knew it was time that we shopped less at supermarkets and frequented the local markets a little more so that we ate more seasonal produce and they understood the concept of seasonal food.

Eating seasonally

There are so many benefits to eating seasonally;
-Food is cheaper when purchased in season
– Food in season is at its peak and tastes better
– Your menu changes with the seasons
– You are exposed to a greater variety of food
– You appreciate the change in seasons and beautiful produce that we have access to

So as we move into the colder months, our meals get a little heavier, we eat more root vegetables and enjoy slower cooked meals. I have read that this is part of our body needing to slow down a little over these cooler months and enjoy the comfort of soups, casseroles and stews. All comforting meals that assist with a little bit of nurturing.
Follow us on social media to tap into some of the amazing seasonal produce and recipes we are trialling at home and at work.

Let us know some of your own favourite recipes and post some images to show how they turned out.

See you at the market soon.
Monique @ Happetite Food