Supermums, mums who have it all together, overachievers and just the super super organised. Titles like these build expectations in our minds of what we “should “ be. Enough already with the titles, superhero capes and masks.
Let’s start by being real and honest with each other – it will make all our lives a little more manageable.
As mothers and business owners we all have days where the house is filthy, we feed our family cheese on toast for dinner, there is a little too much tv watched and the washing pile is so big it takes over an entire room. So what? Days like these happen and we should just open up about them and laugh. If we could just admit that some days the business (aka the other child) takes priority over other tasks and laugh about it, then we would stop putting so much unwanted pressure on ourselves to keep up this façade of supermums who have it all “under control”.
In my head I had this idyllic vision of what it would be like once I had set up and was operating my company Happetite Food. I envisioned myself being fit and active, having a beautiful clean house, feeding my children a vast selection of healthy and amazing meals, being in complete control of my growing business as well as be a great mum, daughter, sister, friend, neighbour and all the other hats we wear. I had a lot to learn.
Some days these tasks can be achieved and others they cannot. Why do we set ourselves such high expectations? Expectations set by ourselves, rather than others, which are often so high that we are destined to let something slip. And then when they slip, in creeps “Mothers ”Guilt. Don’t we all know how that makes you feel!
Enough I say. I am not a super mum. I am just a mum working really hard to grow my business and hitting a few hurdles along the way – hurdles at home and in the business.
I have also come to realise that I have to let that superhero cape go and enjoy the madness, mess and craziness of the journey. So what if the laundry isn’t out. A walk on the beach or a massage is not something I should feel guilty about. It is an essential part of keeping ourselves together as we try and keep all other parts of our lives together.
So how about we take off the masks, the superhero capes and crazy expectations. Lets be real with each other, over a glass of wine or two and laugh about the ups and downs of the rollercoaster journey that is starting and growing a business with kids in tow.
Have an amazing week and I must go as I hear my children and my glass of wine calling to me. X
Written by Monique Treder
Founder of Happetite Food, a gift service delivering tasty comfort meals to families around Sydney, NSW, and ACT.
Taste tester, mum of 2.5 children, and lover of food.
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